Adoption

My husband and I have always wanted to adopt. It was something that we spoke about right from the beginning. I’ve always wanted to experience pregnancy and it would be cool to see what kind of little humans we could make together. Adoption has my heart though. Neither child, biological or adopted would be any more or less valuable, but my heart has always been on fire for the redemptive nature of adoption. My heart has always felt like it was made for motherhood and was made to be a mother of many from any and every way that you can become a mother.

I love Jesus, I’m a Christian. I am pro life and you can debate every nuance and angle, but ultimately I’ll always stand on God’s word. Murder is wrong, especially that of an innocent life. I do NOT, however, support the way many Christians go about being pro life. Many say, abortion is wrong, but it ends with that. They want to outlaw it, but don’t provide support for the women who are still in these unplanned pregnancies. I don’t think that abortion should happen, but I think we should be a village that rises to the occasion to help or fully raise a child. If everyone truly saw value in these unborn lives and the lives of the mothers, they would step in and help. That’s where my heart is.

In 2018, I experienced a miscarriage around 6 weeks pregnant. It was traumatic and definitely scared me off of getting pregnant again anytime soon, but we also hadn’t been trying to get pregnant and weren’t going to try after that for a while. In about 2020, we started talking about growing our family. We were in a good spot and knew it was time! For some reason, I couldn’t stop thinking about adopting. I mentioned it to my husband and he was on the exact same page. He was in the process of finishing up paramedic school so we started on all the paperwork and training. We took our time on everything because we wanted to time it to where he was done with school. We officially were home study approved in December of 2021 and it was just a wait at that point.

In May of 2022, we received a message about a baby boy who had been born the night before. We said yes and within a few hours we were told that his birth mom chose us to be his parents. We were shocked, but so excited! Becoming his parents will always be one of the best days of my life that I’ll never be able to get over. We have an open adoption with him and his birth parents and it is truly such a beautiful thing to be able to provide him with that transparency and relationship throughout his life.

Adoption is such a beautiful thing. It’s not easy and it’s not perfect, but it truly is life changing. We have the ability as his parents for our lives to be impacted, our child’s life to be impacted as well as impacting a whole other branch of a new extended family that we have. When we lost Ivy, which I shared in another post, we took some time to heal and get our bearings. I didn’t really have a desire to just try again right away and get pregnant. Then, we found out I wasn’t able to safely get pregnant right away. We had always planned on adopting again after she was born, so we decided that this was the direction we were being called as we grow our family. There were a ton of other signs that we had, but I want to share those in our second adoption story whenever that happens. I have a really strong feeling that this next baby’s story is going to be pretty powerful and such a God given miracle.

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